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Welcome to Episode 14 everyone! How are you this week? Are you starting to settle into your new normal? We are actually on spring break week here in Spokane, Washington, or at least the week that was supposed to be spring break. We’re having some amazing weather in our area for this time of the year and I’m so grateful we’ve been able to go outside and play. We go for about a million walks because there are not as many other things to be doing, but it’s been so awesome to have this stay-cation for spring break, which is completely different than what we had originally planned.
Today I wanted to talk to you about one of my favorite topics, motivation. I heard a really interesting statistic the other day that we’re 33% more efficient when we’re feeling happy, inspired, and motivated than when we’re feeling some of the more negative or neutral emotions and I think you can probably see how that’s true for you. For me, when I’m highly motivated, I get into that creative flow state so easily.
You may have also noticed that I’ve been talking a lot about feelings on the podcast over the past few weeks and there’s a really good reason for this. It turns out that feelings are one of the most important things when it comes to getting a lot done and being highly productive.
As you know, the more productive you are, the less busy-ness you have in your life, and the more you’re able to curate the life that you really want. So as part of the process to unbusy your life and become highly productive, you have to understand the role of emotions and feelings in what’s driving your behavior in what you do and how much you create in your hours. So today we’re going to talk about a really important emotion in terms of productivity, and that is motivation. What I want you to know is that it’s not something that we find or something that just happens to us. It’s not like an Easter egg hunt where we go out and we find an egg and we hope that it’s the money egg. It doesn’t just descend on us. We as humans have the power to create it and it’s actually a renewable energy source as you’ll soon see.
What that means is that you can feel it any time you want. It’s not like willpower, which is a resource in which we have a finite amount of. In fact, a lot of us try and rely on willpower to motivate us to do things and because we have a finite amount, once it’s gone, we’re not able to push ourselves or move forward. Motivation on the other hand is like wind or solar power. It’s totally renewable and it’s generated from within you.
So I wanted to teach you a skill today that I call, “How to feel on purpose,” so that you can create motivation for yourself any time you want it. It turns out that you are actually the renewable resource to motivation. Now, this might freak your brain out a little bit because if you’re like me, you were taught that your feelings are created from the people and the things outside of you – how people treat you, maybe the house that you live in, the job that you have, maybe the amount of money that you have in your bank account. Basically what that taught you is that you were at the effect of all of these things and your feelings were at the effect of all of these things instead of that you were in control of them and actually creating them for yourself.
I remember when I used to think, “If only I didn’t have to be driven by emotion or if I just didn’t have to feel feelings, life would be so much easier and more fun.” Now, that was of course before I knew that my own thoughts were responsible for how I was feeling, but now I’m so grateful to know this because it’s really the ultimate empowerment and this is exactly what I’m going to teach you about today.
So here we go. The first thing you need to know is that motivation is a feeling. Now, like I said earlier, many of us were taught from our teachers and our parents that our feelings are things that are created from outside of us. The problem with that is number one, it’s not true, but number two, that would mean we would have little to no control over whether or not we feel any kind of feeling.
So when we talk about motivation, what that would mean is you would have to wait around for motivation to come upon you in order to be motivated into action. Thankfully, this isn’t true. We are the creator of our feelings, not the victim of them. Our feelings are created because of our thoughts about all of the circumstances in our lives. Because we have this as a superpower, as a human, we get to create motivation whenever we want.
I’m going to teach you a quick three step process to be able to do this in just a minute, but first, I want to talk to you about the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation. Now, there really is no difference between these two, even though we’re told differently. Extrinsic motivation is defined to be something that is outside of us that motivates us, whereas intrinsic motivation is defined to be created by something inside of us.
Guess what? They’re exactly the same. There’s nothing outside of us that motivates us. It’s the thought that we have about that thing outside of us that motivates us. So really all motivation is intrinsic. It’s created from the inside out.
Here’s an example: If I offered to pay you $50,000 to follow your plan for one day, you would for sure do it right now. Why is that? It’s because of what you would be thinking about the $50,000. Maybe it would be something as simple as, “That’s a lot of money and I want it now.” Not everyone would be motivated by this and that’s because their thoughts about it would be different. For example, if I offered this deal to Oprah, she would not be motivated by $50,000. Why is that? It’s because she would think it’s not enough money to spend her time on it, or it’s just not worth it to her.
You can even find people who don’t care about money and this $50,000 would not motivate them into action because they’d be thinking that they don’t care about money. However, if you’re someone who does like money and that amount of money, $50,000, is a lot to you, you would have thoughts about it that would make you feel motivated to go do whatever it is that I asked you to do in order to get the $50,000.
So the point here is that all motivation is intrinsic because motivation is a feeling and we create our feelings by our thinking. You create motivation by thinking motivating thoughts. If motivation is created by thinking motivating thoughts, the way to create motivation for yourself on purpose is to direct your brain to consciously think about thoughts that make you feel motivated.
There are two requirements for these thoughts. Number one is that you have to believe them to be true. Number two, is that they make you feel motivated. I want you to know that this is not a one size fits all solution. They’re very individualized and you have to play around with them to find the one that works just right for you.
I want you to to think about it as if you’re going shoe shopping. You try on some shoes that maybe are too small or too big or uncomfortable until you find the exact right pair. If you’re like me they’re super cute but still as comfortable as slippers. It takes a little bit of time and experimentation to get just the right one and you want to strive for Cinderella here. You don’t want to be one of the wicked stepsisters. The shoe has to fit just right and what that means is you believe it and it makes you feel motivated.
The best way to do this is to find thoughts that you were thinking or phrases that were going through your mind when you were feeling motivated in the past. This is because we know that these are believable to you and they made you feel motivated. We have proof. We’ve already tested them and shown that they worked. So I want you to consider taking some time to recall a situation in your past where you were feeling super motivated. What was the situation? Can you describe it in detail and then can you recall what you were thinking? What was going through your mind? What did you do or create from that motivational space? Write it all down so that you can see what you were thinking.
For me, one of the things that I love most in my business is content creation because this is where I get to let my creative brain go wild. When I get a new project or I’m working on a new podcast episode, I get super excited and motivated. Here are the thoughts that I have:
+ I can’t wait to teach this.
+ I can’t wait to share it.
+ This is going to help someone.
These thoughts that I have create high levels of motivation for me. I get so jazzed that sometimes I just have to go stop whatever I’m doing. I will go write the episode and record it right then, or at least take notes on the idea so that I don’t lose what I’ve just created in my mind.
So the best way is to think back to a time where you felt really motivated and see if you can recall that situation in enough detail in your mind to figure out what you were thinking or what was going on in your mind. The second best way to find a motivating thought is to borrow it from someone else. I’m going to list off a few, but just know that these may not work for you. Again, this is very individualized. You have to come up with one or find one that you believe to be true and that makes you feel motivated. This is the difference between creating thoughts that make you feel motivated on purpose and positive mantras.
If you’ve done some of the positive mantra work in the past and they didn’t work for you, it’s because of one of two things. Either you didn’t believe that mantra that you were saying or it didn’t create the feeling that you were looking for when you said it to yourself.
So let me give you an example of some motivating thoughts. Here’s what I’d like you to do as I say these thoughts: I want you to sit and close your eyes so that you’re removing the visual sense. As I say the sentence or phrase, I want you to notice the feeling that you have.
Do you feel motivated? Does it land for you? Does it feel true to you? What feeling does it create in you? Whichever ones work for you, write them down. If none of them work for you, that’s totally fine. It just means we have a little bit more work to do to find one that works for you. Here we go.
+ I can’t wait to share this.
+ This is going to be so good.
+ This is going to help so many people.
+ I’m going to be so proud of myself for this.
+ It’s so fun. I love this work.
+ Success is inevitable.
+ I’m unstoppable.
+ Fear is my fuel.
+ I was born for this.
Do any of these work for you?
If so, add it to your motivational thought list. If it doesn’t, we have a little more work to do.
The other way to find motivational thoughts is to engage with motivational content. Listen to motivational podcasts or webinars, or listen to the way your mentor or your coach speaks about about her life, or her business. Write them down so that you can recall them when you need them. You’re going to know when you hit the jackpot because you will feel high vibrational energy in your body,.
High motivation is where you can create epic results, but you don’t have to wait for it to descend upon you or fall upon you magically. You are actually in the driver’s seat. So I want you to go out this week and feel motivated on purpose and just see what you can create. All you need to do is find a motivating thought and repeat it to yourself any time you need that little extra boost of motivational energy.
If you’re someone who is ready for a deeper dive into this work, I’ve got something special for you. Maybe you’re tired of feeling too busy and overwhelmed and you want to scale back the number of hours that you’re working, but not the results that you’re creating. I want to help you and the best way to get started is to grab your FREE Scheduling Strategy Session with me. In this call, we’re going to uncover what’s creating your busy-ness and overwhelm in the first place. We are going to get really clear about what you want. I’ll show you the step by step process that will get you there. All you need to do is click here to grab your free Scheduling Strategy Session with me.
Alright, that’s all for this week’s episode of Unbusy Your Life. I hope this has supported you in creating more motivation to get things done and create a larger impact.
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Okay everyone, have an amazing unbusy week. I’ll talk to you next week.